Please stop telling me what men find attractive… Thanks

I have been reading magazines, websites, and blogs for a long time now, and I have one teeny, tiny little favor to ask of you: I need you to stop telling me what men want me to look like. I know, I know, it’s kinda your thang. Here’s why I need you to cut it out ASAP.

1. It’s a bullsh*t premise. You can’t really tell me what men like because you don’t actually know. I don’t care how many guys you surveyed; there’s no single, universally agreed-upon thing that men like when it comes to women’s looks. For every guy who likes women with long hair, there’s another guy who loves women with short hair. And for every guy who cares that much about a woman’s hair, there’s a guy who loves women for their personalities first and sees their looks as a nice bonus.

2. I can’t please everyone. Even if men did all like the same thing, that thing would be in a constant state of flux. What we find attractive is affected by so many things; there’s no guarantee that what a guy found attractive last year will be the same thing he finds attractive this year. Trends and celebrities heavily influence the beauty standard; continuing to change my hair color just to keep up with what a guy wants is just unrealistic.

3. It’s pointless information (unless the point is to make me feel like crap, in which case, it’s very good information). There’s nothing like hearing men comment on the things a woman cannot change about herself — height, weight, curves or lack thereof — to make her feel crummy. Glad to know you like tall women with round booties, Random Guy Who Knows Someone Who Works at Cosmo. I’ll get right on that bone-lengthening operation.

4. I don’t care about my looks for the men’s sake. Women know that when it comes to fashion, we are often dressing for other women, and the same goes for beauty. Whether we want our future sister-in-law to think we look pulled-together or want our boss to think we look professional, we care a lot about what other women think of us. Whether that’s a good thing or a bad thing, the fact remains: dudes are not the ones I’m trying to impress much of the time.

5. Men don’t care what I find attractive. If they did, they’d be spending more time in the weight room or growing nice beards, and less time telling strangers on the Internet what they find attractive.

Perfect Makeup Ideas for a First Date

F irst dates can be a mix of emotions from nerve-wracking to exciting. You’re frazzled trying to figure out what to wear, what to say and of course, how to do your makeup. You want to look like yourself, but the best version.

Here are some “do’s” for first date makeup:

1.Go for a natural or light shade of lipstick. Unless dark lip colors are your personal style and you use a long lasting shade, you don’t want a dark shade to come off by the end of the night, especially if the date goes well and you lock lips.

2. While this isn’t necessarily makeup, you want your hair to match your look. Opt for simple styles that don’t take much fuss or something you won’t be worried about coming undone by the end of dinner. Wear your hair down and in a style that is natural and comfortable for you and your hair type. The same goes with your outfit. Opt for classic, comfortable and simple with colors that bring out your natural beauty and style.

3. Remember last minute prep before he arrives! Brush your teeth, use deodorant, use eye drops and put on one last swipe of lip gloss.

Now here are some “don’ts” for your first date looks:

1. Stick with the basics and don’t take too many risks. Remember, you want to look like you. Save sparkly eye shadows and funky hair colors for girl’s nights out. Guys don’t always understand or appreciate the latest trends, especially when it comes to makeup. Natural beauty is always best.

2. Don’t wear too much perfume or body spray. Vanilla-based scents are best because they are light and sweet. Too much perfume can be a turn-off or can be trouble if your date is allergic or sensitive to strong smells.

3. Remember, less is more. Don’t use too much makeup.

Let your inner beauty shine through! Keep your makeup look natural and glowy and remember to smile. Happiness looks good on everyone!